I've said it a million times that, like racists, the only good homophobe is a dead one, and I'll say it again.
Check out the youtubes of these two--each one is heartbreaking. Shane has made a documentary about his ordeal, and it's just won an award. It's a film which, were it not for hatred and homophobia, would not have been made.
Tom Bridegroom and Shane were not just lovers, they were soulmates. They met when they were in their early twenties. They travelled the world together for six years. They set up home. Then in May 2011, Tom died in an accident, and his mother took over. Shane's family had accepted their relationship, Tom's had not. His mother seized his body, Shane wasn't permitted to be involved with his funeral, even though he was the closest person in Tom's life. He even had to sneak into the cemetery later to see his lover's grave.
Watch their videos--not just the one where Shane breaks down after Tom's death but their "First Time" videos where they share theirs travels. Tom was also a singer, and a good one. Every minute you watch these two, they bring sunshine into the room.
As for Tom's mother, may she ever walk in darkness and gloom for what she has done to this lovely man, and for the way she has deeply insulted the son she was clearly ashamed of, from beyond the grave.